When you have to face up to the fact that marriage to the man you love is really over thats very tough sheer agony. In that kind of harrowing situation I always go away and cut myself off from the world. Also I sober up immediately when there is genuine bad news in my life I never face it with alcohol in my brain. I just rented a house in Palm Springs and sat there and just suffered for a couple of weeks. I suffered there until I was strong enough to face it.